What's the best use of your money? Would you buy a coffee for £2 from a coffee shop, or buy a teapot for £1 from a road-side stall?
My wife and I were on holiday with the kids recently in a seaside town in Cornwall. After a lovely afternoon at the beach we were walking back to our rented house and we saw a table outside a house with some second hand goods for sale. No-one was at the stand, not even the owner, and there was an honesty box for purchases.
My wife spotted a white porcelain teapot. Plain, white. A teapot. She said, "I really like this, let's get it, it's only £1". I said "A teapot, what do you want a teapot for? We don't even drink tea, and if we give it to visitors we already have a silver teapot we can use".
"I like it - okay?! It's only £1, what's it to you? It will look lovely on the shelf in the new kitchen". I don't know why, but I still resisted. I just hated the idea of owning another object that would need to be moved, cleaned. Perhaps I have a less is more approach to belongings - the more stuff you have, the bigger burden it creates on maintaining that stuff, and it can actually be a cause of unhappiness. That's why I didn't see the point of a £1 teapot that we would never use. It wasn't the cost, it was the space.
My wife said, "I don't complain when you buy a £2 cup of coffee!" (It's true, I like coffee, and I buy one or two a day - that's quite an expensive habit - maybe smoking would be cheaper.) "So why are you kicking up a fuss about a £1 teapot?"
At this point I figured that it was a good time to just lie down and buy the teapot. I realised that it would give her some degree of happiness and that an argument wouldn't help either of us. Mental trade-off made, we bought the teapot.
It did get me thinking though. If you have a choice, is it better to spend your money on things or experiences? Or - give your money away? It seems to me that good experiences mature like good wine. They get better and better in our memories because we filter out the worst bits. Things/objects on the other hand rarely get better, they get worse. They deteriorate, they need repairing. Something better soon comes along and our joy on the thing that was "new" fades quickly. We get used to things and want more. Then - they need disposing of.
Experiences it seems are an investment - they mature. Things on the other hand are like throwing money away. The only alteration to this principle that makes sense to me concerns things that are bought in order to enjoy experiences. Skis, bikes and boats come into this category for me.
I had a lovely coffee that morning on holiday, sitting on the harbour wall and soaking up the atmosphere. In many ways it was one highlight of my holiday. I wonder how my £2 investment will pay off against the £1 teapot? Time will tell.
